The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

 

This book suddenly crossed my mind after reading a lousy book in "Atomic Habits". "Atomic Habits" really disappointed me. As such, I felt there is a need to revisit a book I read 20 years ago. Main thing is, I need to find out whether I really hate "Atomic Habits" that much or simply because this sort of books no more sounds appealing to me...

At the end, this is still the same "amazing" book I read 20 years ago. A reread after 20 years is an incredible journey. After all, when I can re-quote some of the nice quotes below, it clearly showed that this book is still applicable after years. Further to that, although the said 7 habits were practiced over the years, the revision on this book did trigger some new ideas on me particularly as well as my interdependent relationship. 

Relatively, "Atomic Habits" do not have this sort of attraction. Well, credit must be given to the author of 7 habits. "Atomic Habits" may not be that bad. Perhaps, the presenting styles and the practical part is not as good as 7 habits. 

Out of 10, I have no reason to revise my full rating 20 years ago. This book is still one of my bibles in life and amazingly, it is still perfectly good to maintain all the 7 habits for the rest of my life. Thumbs up and thumbs up to the late Stephen R. Covey!

My experience has been that there are times to teach and times not to teach. When relationship are strained and the air charged with emotions, an attempt to teach is often perceived as a form of judgment and rejection.

A sense of possessing needs to come before a sense of genuine sharing.

Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm. Skill is the how to do and desire is the motivation. In order to make something a habit, we have to have all three.

Effectiveness lies in the balance. Excessive focus on P results in ruined health, worn-out machines, depleted bank accounts and broken relationship. Too much focus on PC is like a person who runs 3/4 hours a day, bragging about the extra 10 years of life it creates, unaware he's spending them running. 

There are 3 social maps: Genetic determinism, Psychic determination, Environmental determination to explain the nature of man. 

Look at the word responsibility - "response-ability" - the ability to choose your response. Highly proactive people recognize that responsibility.

Proactive people are still influenced by external stimuli. But, their response to the stimuli is a value-based choice or response. It is our willing permission, our consent to what happens to us, that hurts us far more than what happens to us in the first place. It's not what happen to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us. 

It is our willingness permission, our consent to what happens to us, that hurts us far more than what happens to us in the first place.

In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling.

Proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence. They work on the things they can do something about. The nature of their energy is positive, enlarging and magnifying, causing their Circle of Influence to increase. Reactive people on the other hand, focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern.

Whether a problem is direct, indirect, or no control, we have in our hands to the first step to the solution. Changing our habits, changing our methods of influence and changing the way we see our no control problems are within our Circle of Influence.

Habit 1 says "You are the programmer." Habit 2, then, says "Write the program." Until your accept the idea that you are responsible, that you are the programmer, you won't really invest in writing the program.

Almost all of the world class athletes and other peak performers are visualizers. They see it; the fell it; they experience it before they actually do it. They begin with the end in mind.

Before a performance, a sales presentation, a difficult confrontation, or the daily challenge of meeting a goal, see it clearly, vividly, relentlessly, over and over again. Create an internal "comfort zone." Then, when you get into the situation, it isn't foreign. It doesn't scare you.

My maxim of personal effectiveness: Manage from the left; lead from the right.

The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities. And this can be done in the context of the week.

The focus in steward delegation is on effectiveness, not efficiency. Certainly you can do it better by yourself, but the key is to empower someone else to do it. It takes time. You have to get involved in the training and development. It takes time, but how valuable that time is downstream! It saves you so much in long run. 

The steward relatively compares to gofer focused on results instead of methods. The steward becomes his own boss, governed by a conscience that contains the commitment to agreed upon desired results. But it also releases his creative energies to achieve those desired results.

Real self-respect comes from dominion over self, from true independence. And that's the focus of Habits 1,2,3. Independence is an achievement. Interdependence is a choice only independent people can make. Unless we are willing to achieve real independence, it's foolish to try to develop human relations skills. 

I suggest that in an interdependent situation, every P problem is a PC opportunity - a chance to build the Emotional Bank Accounts that significantly affect interdependent production.  

Seek first to understand involves a very deep shift in paradigm. Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply. They're filtering everything through their own paradigms. 

As long as the response it logical, can effectively ask questions and give counsel. But the moment the response becomes emotional, one needs to go back to emphatic listening.

The more proactive you are (Habit 1), the more effectively you can exercise personal leadership (Habit 2) and management (Habit 3) in your life. The more effectively you manage your life (Habit 3), the more Quadrant II renewing activities you can do (Habit 7). The more you seek first to understand (Habit 5), the more effectively you can go for synergetic Win/Win situation (Habits 4 & 6). The more you improve in any of the habits that lead to independence (Habits 1,2,3), the more effective you will be in interdependent situations (Habits 4,5,6). And renewal (Habit 7) is the process of renewing all the habits.

There is a gap or space between stimulus and response, and that they key to both our growth and happiness is how we use that space. 

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

 

Since "7 habits", I think I never found a book as good as the theory mentioned in 7 Habits. The said 7 habits served me well for the past 20 years to becomes the highly effective people as claimed by the late Stephen Covey. Now, I am into this atomic habits. The topic itself sounds appealing in the first place. Secondly, I was in a forum on books and this book keep on bombarding my fb wall in the said forum. So, here I am with a book that usually would not appear in my book shelf. 

At the end... I did not finish this book. This is a boring and dull book. Basically, the four concepts are too simple to practice and I humbly think that this is how I practice my life for the past 20 years. As such, this book does not deliver what I want and I ended up gave up half way. 

My expectation on this book was high in the first place. After all, it was highly recommended by all friends in my forum. The so called "atomic" habits are nothing new under the sun. We had this sort of ideas everywhere and perhaps the author only did his best to use the right words to "upgrade" the whole concept. For example, I hate the repeating words of "Laws" being highlighted throughout the book. To me, it is a "principle" at most! Law??? No way... 

Finally, this book could have been written in less than 100 pages. There are a lot of repetition and the author mumbling the same stuff over and over again. In fact, this book can easily be sum up by reading the chapter summaries. So, for a full rating of 10, I am going to rate this book at 1. The idea is good (nothing special though), but it is just too wordy to finish it up... 

《素书》大成智慧

 

据说，张良靠着这本伟大的著作成就了刘邦汉朝四百年江山（无从考证）。我要求不高，接下来有个辉煌中的平淡二十年就足矣，😄。。。这类书籍我读过不少。不过，孤陋寡闻的我；“素书”我还真的没听过。因此，当老友赠送这本书时，我还真的吓了一大跳。中华五千年历史，我们这些凡夫俗子只能惊叹一句老话：学海无涯！！！！

这本书大道理很多。大道理不是不好，但是要把大道理说的生动，还得要劳动易中天或袁腾飞这类作者才能让读者读的废寝忘食。据说，作者好像有个组织研究院。因此，他的研究院学生或许更能体会这本书的用意。以我个人而言，这本书挺闷的。第一，每一个大道理都是从原典开始。老实说，这几年文言文的功力真的开始减退了。因此，原典的开始对于我简直就是多余的。结果是，我跳过所有的原典而直接朝向译文。第二，类似这类书籍，或许需要一些生动的例子才能让整个哲学没那么沉闷。这方面，作者可能太正经了。（易中天和袁腾飞宠坏了我们这些读者😆）很多大道理，虽说有理，但是就是激发不到内心的沸腾情绪。第三，张良的名字太响了。书的开头一开始就以张良做铒诱。期望太大，往往都是失望更甚。

十分满分，这本书我给于四分。整个素书有它的道理价值。毕竟人性的修身处事，除了中华文化，基本上欧美的智谋宝典还是有它欠缺的一面。但是。。。第一，我真的不太喜欢作者呈现的方式。第二，可能是年纪也大了，类似哲学的大道理越来越不吸引我。第三，基于生活真的很忙碌，这类修生养性的事还真的没什么兴致去处理😁。整体上，这本书或许真的不错，不过确实不是我喜欢的那杯茶。。。

攻心术：22個长胜不敗的心理秘密

最近忽然很怀念繁体字。。。其实繁体字有它美妙的一面。总觉得繁体字才是真正中文的精髓。很可惜，中国大陆就是喜欢简体字。现实问题。中国书籍和马币的贬值却又不得不让我这种书呆子不让步。所以，很多时候，中国书籍始终是首选。好了，废话不多，来探讨一下这本攻心术吧！

这本书其实不错。作者的分析，搭配上个案的解释其实到挺到位的。但是，我们这类职场老油条可能对这本书的共鸣程度不高。第一，里头好多招数我也用了二十多年。所谓的攻心，我个人见解为诚意是攻心的至高境界。第二，就业也好，销售谈判也好，近年来，可能也少做了。毕竟，这个年龄如果还在烦着就业问题，我的人生也算挺失败的。社交更不用说；人生走了一大半，如果社交还是首选，我还真的不太怜惜我自己。

这本书籍其实适合社会新鲜人阅读。怎么说呢？里头的招数其实是招招见血。很多社会菜鸟缺乏的正是这类心里战术。毕竟，不是每个人天生都特别懂得运用情商和心里战术来生存。因此，这本书对于这一类人或许更能启发到他们菜鸟的历程。十分满分，基于个人已经是只疲惫不堪的老鸟，因此只能打个4分。整体上，阅读这本书还是挺有趣的。至少，回味一下年轻到如今走过的点点滴滴。读完整本书后，突然有种感觉：好成功噢！终于成功的把自己变成当年最鄙视的那个人了！😄

蔡康永的情商课：为你自己活一次

 好久没看书了。。。四个多月，疫情的干扰让我加速成长。有些人开不了工，难得偷闲度月（如年？）。我却恰恰相反。现在，终于可以偷个半日闲把书架上的图书慢慢啃掉。都说四个多月了，一开始当然得酝酿读书的情绪。好吧，就来本轻松写意的书籍呗！

结果是。。。好选不选，竟然选了一本那么沉闷的书籍。基于太久不看书，一开始想找本比较轻松又不需要绞尽脑汁的“开胃书”。的确，这本书的确是不会伤到脑细胞。原因是，这本书根本没办法把我的脑袋敲醒！！！

第一，一开始我并不认同作者的情商理论。毕竟，我没有菜主播的那种智慧。里头的理论我怎么读都是一堆我不认同的歪理。第二，好讨厌每个理论的开头白：我有个艺人朋友！以作者的文学角度，应该会有更新鲜的开端吧！或许，作者有心那么写。毕竟，这也是为自己而活的表现吧！第三，我很努力的把这本书啃到一半。以我的毅力，我很少那么容易放弃。但，这一回，我还真的投降了。

我不知道其他读者对于这本书的评价。以我个人而言，这本书我真的不太喜欢。10分满分，本人给予0分！或许是年龄和忙碌的关系，对于这类书籍，好像越来越难产生共鸣。（油腻中年男子的困惑？）最后，再次申明，本人非常喜欢蔡康永的主持风格。总觉得，蔡康永一直是台湾主持界，最有内涵的主持人。虽然尝试爱屋及乌；但是，这本书我还真的举白旗了。。。

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你的煩惱，哲學家早有答案

哲学。。。这个领域曾经是我的最爱！可能以前看了太多这类书籍，因此这几年不太热衷于这个曾经的最爱，哈哈。这回，基于工作需要，因此需要恶补这一块。

结果是。。。这本书还真的挺有趣的。。。第一，里头列出的烦恼的确是一般凡人所面对的烦恼。当然，如果你不是凡人，这本书你可以抛到云霄之外。作者很巧妙的把古人（顶级聪明的古人）一些理论套用在凡人的问题上。这方面，作者做的非常到位。第二，作者的文笔（虽然是翻译的）也是堪称一绝。哲学理论基本上挺闷的。但是，这本书读起来轻松而且很有趣。第三，虽是翻译书，但是，如果没察觉，还真的感觉不到翻译的效果。

赞赏的方面是有。但，批判也是需要的。作者虽然巧妙的把古人的智慧套用在凡人的问题上；但是往往也造成对号入座的问题。有些哲学理论显然一开始应该不是这样运用的。但，作者为了满足读者的需求，却硬生生的把这些伟大理论套用在凡人的身上。创意是有，但造作肯定也不少。再来，哲学的伟大在于思想精髓。既然是思想精髓，那么把伟大的哲学套用在凡人的琐碎问题上，岂不是大材小用吗？

再来，这本书如果纯粹的把它当作是哲学书籍来阅读，可能效果会更好。很多时候，这本书让我陷入哲学的思考中。整个过程彷佛回到哲学领域多过凡人的问题上。第一，书里凡人的问题，我不完全有。第二，因为作者尝试把哲学的理念解说的太清楚，往往我都忘了我在看着凡人的问题。整本书的概念是对的。借由凡人的问题把哲学领域推上另一个高峰的确是作者创意的一面。但是，阅读本该是学习+愉快！这方面，混乱的搭配有时反而引起反效果。

满分十分，个人给予六分。这本书整体上挺有趣，读一读无妨。但是，如果要深入了解哲学这本书顶多只能是一本初级版的哲学书。评分不高（也不低吧），还是有些语录值得深思的。以下语录与天下烦恼的凡人共勉之：

亨利 柏格森：
我们企图利用看得到的空间，类比，管理时间这种看不见的东西，借此有效的不浪费地使用时间。原本应该让自己的时间活得丰富精彩，获得自由的我们，因为受到对他人的承诺与社会规范的约束，误以为使劲的把时间填满，就是过的充实。我们对此毫无反省。

马克斯 韦伯：
舍弃对财富的执念，勤奋工作的人，最后才会成为有钱人。
尚若世上有推动我们人类的动力，绝不会是金钱本身。

亚里士多德：
暂时忘掉未来的目的和计划，让自己一头栽进当下想做的事情，应该要做的事。
不管结果如何，享受过程的一切。唯有不随便，尽全力享受过程的人，才能在关键时候做出最好的表现。

德勒兹：
即便是封闭，让人窒息的职场环境，仔细观察，其实充满了各种可以逃离的缝隙，有着许多机会的希望场所。

释迦摩尼：
放下过去的记忆，或是对未来的不安，恐惧的执着，集中精神于当下。
禅让我们从烦恼的人，变成观察烦恼的人。

尚保罗 沙特：
即便一开始和帅哥美女距离遥远，人只要凭着正确的意志和努力，往反方向奋力一跳也有机会终成眷属。

弗德里希 尼采：
生命这个东西不断的兜圈子。无论是幸福愉快的经验还是不想回忆的失败经验，最终都会因缘而结合在一起。
我们要去爱，享受那大起大落的人生。

米哈里 契克森米哈伊：
拿自己的身份状态跟别人比较，以证明自己优于他人；或是相反，觉得自己不优秀，落后别人，而感到低劣他人一等；无论那一种都是自卑情结，没有差别。

汤馬士 霍布斯：
随时提高警惕，唯有紧张兮兮到病态的程度才能存活。
多疑是存活的必备条件。
我毕生的热情，都投注在恐惧上。

阿尔弗雷德 阿德勒:
被看不起本身并不是问题。以为被看不起而感到在意，误以为别人的课题是自己的课题才是问题。
人只要在觉得自己有价值时，才有勇气进入人际关系。在外面的世界，即便被看不起也能不动声色，尽可能的充实自己的内在。这样做，就能做到课题分离了。

汉娜 尔兰：
若未能从过去的行为解放，我们的行动能力就会一直受到过去某个失败所束缚，而无法修复人与人之间的关系。
与报复相反的原谅，可以让对方和自己，从最初犯下的错误，以及报复可能引发的连锁当中获得自由，进而与断绝关系的人和解。

格欧尔格 W 黑格尔：
敌对的你和我，因为互相理解变成我们。一起往上提升才是最重要的。

丹尼尔 康纳曼：
人无法做出理性的判断。统计学的期望值例子。选择麻痹（选择越多，人反而无法选择或是直接放弃选择）
人具有这样的倾向：一旦做了决定，这个决定就会一直跟着自己，影响之后的人生。

叔本华：
让自己沉溺在兴趣之中，享受孤独，研究自己喜欢的东西，专注在独自一人能做的工作，才能度过有意义的孤独时光。孤独并不可怕。
喜爱孤独的人，犹如手中握有金矿。

好睡：新的睡眠科学与医学

睡眠，一直是我四十年来的问题。我相信，它也是很多人的问题。因此，这本书的出现，绝对是我的福音。。。

可惜。。。期望越高，失望还真的高的不得了。我不怪作者，怪就怪在一开始我并没有在书局翻阅。一看到“好睡”这个标题，我就认定这本书一定能帮到我。因此，当我很兴奋的阅读时，才发现这本书完全不是我要的那杯茶。

第一，这本书的原理偏向于心理学上的睡眠治疗法。对于失眠四十年的我来说，这一些理论我早就了如指掌。毕竟，里头的方法我也运用了四十年。第二，作者不断的引入他的其他书籍。感觉上，作者就是要我们买完他的作品才能好好的睡上一觉。 第三，这本书可能对于刚刚患上失眠症的人，的确是有些帮助。但是，对于我这样的失眠佼佼者来说， 这本书简直就是百无一用。

批评了那么多，这本书肯定评价不高。10分满分，基于作用不大，只能勉强给个1分。这一分充其量只能是因为作者帮我复习了一些老方法。具体来说，这本书我想得到和我最后得到的都不多。

终身学习：哈佛毕业后的六堂课

好久没阅读一些学术性的书籍。这本书堪称史丹福和哈佛没有教的必修课。因此，特别吸引了我。

结果是。。。这本书太棒了！棒在那里？第一，这本书的学术性太高了。读完整本书后，老实说，真的获益不浅。诚如书的主题所说，这本书的确是终身学习的一个主题。里头概括了所有人生必备的一些工具。如果能够运用一半以上，我相信人生会走的更顺畅。

第二，作者本身堪称是个成功的生意人。我感到好奇的是。。。作者哪来那么多时间上那么多课程。我也是生意人。我还是个不成功的生意人。但，一个不成功的生意人都腾不出时间来上课，黄总却能在那么短的时间上了那么多课程。佩服，佩服还是佩服！或许，是时候放下一些来换取另一些吧。。。

第三，这本书脱离了一般学术性质的本质。如果主题让你觉得很压力，那就大错特错了。这本书写的很轻松。读者应该会很轻松的了解作者想要表达的意义。学术性有，但又不大伤脑筋！这类书籍怎能不吸引读者呢？

再好的书总有些缺陷。这本书，个人觉得太多学习过程了。书的主题是终身学习。因此，作者很贪心的把整个人生需要概括的学习过程都写进去了。我个人认为要啃完这本书的确需要花上些时间。虽然大致上轻松，但免不了要用上一点脑筋去思考。因此，如果这本书分成两个段若或者两本不同的上下集，我觉得会更好。

10分满分，这本书我给于9分。整体上，这本书很值得推荐。第一，如果把它当作是新的学习知识，这本书绝对称职。第二，就算有些知识你和我都很熟悉，这本书还是能够启到加深知识和复习的作用。

最后，有些语录还是值得记录的。黄总整本书的经典语录的确让我获益不少。

哈尔埃尔罗德总结出一套“早晨程序”，包括运动，阅读，感恩，冥想和定目标等。他还指出，也许你觉得每天早晨花一个小时很奢侈，但当你做了之后就会发现，这一个小时可以让你之后的十五个小时获得最高效率的最好方法。

当你知道自己处于某种情绪时，你会让自己停留多久？情商的意义是如何管理自己的情绪，尽量缩短极端情绪持续的时间。这里不单单指负面情绪。因为无论那种极端情绪，维持太久的时间都是不好的。人需要在大多数情况下处于不悲不喜。因为这种感觉对身体是最好的。

所有的情绪和反应都是你自己产生的。所以，当外部世界朝你轰叫时，你不需要有任何情绪反应。如果有的话，就观察它。观察它的来，观察它的去。

影响力原则：
1. 互惠性原则
2. 稀有性原则
3. 权威性原则
4. 一致性原则： 个人的言语和行为一致
5. 社会认同原则
6. 相似性原则：建立私人关系，抓住共同点，给对方一些真诚的赞许

一群聪明人未必能够达到共识。在没有制度的前提下，我说我的，各做各的。在一个社群建立的初期，真的需要一个领袖人物。

社群能否成功建立，其实和大家聪明不聪明没有必然关系。重点是制度和领袖。

我无法控制别人的想法，我只能更勇气的面对自己，对自己说的话和做的事负责。

人生幸福来自六个需求的满足：
1。人生的确定性：虽然人生充满变数，但人需要有确定性。
2. 人生的不确定性：每天重复同样的日子，会非常无趣。所以，生活也需要一些不确定性。
3. 个体的重要性：知道自己的价值。
4. 连接与爱
5. 成长
6. 贡献

我对压力和担忧从新定义：我要积极做好我所能做的事，也要认识到意外产生的必然性。既然意外是不可避免的，坦然面对，积极处理，其实这何尝不是提升我个人能力的一种方式呢？

如果付出有个前提，想得到什么，那当然会不开心。如果付出只是为了帮助别人，自我提升，那内心的满足也会源自于此。

如果没有找到符合自己需求的组织，那么就建立一个属于自己的“大头脑”。

一家成功的企业具备七个要数：
1. 优秀的企业文化。
2. 前瞻性的战略。
3. 不断的创新。
4. 做好市场推广。
5. 建立好的销售系统。
6. 完善法律和财务体系。
7. 不断改进和优化。

不是每个公司都需要做大。当风投想给你一笔资金，伴随而来的也有很多的不确定性，也就和你的基本需求背道而驰了。

当一间公司运作的非常好，从某种程度来说，他就应该把个人和公司之间进行一次分离。这时候，他会同时具备两种身份，一个是“事业执行者”，另一个是“事业拥有者”。作为前者，他是公司的一名员工，为公司创造价值；作为后者，他拥有属于自己的部分。

如果我们想有更长远的追求，想要获得进步，我们首先需要认识到自己的舒适区及其边界，然后能够打破它，扩大我们的活动范围，逼近我们的极限。

大城心事3：小说版

陈峰又有新书了。身为陈峰大哥的忠实支持者，这本书怎能错过呢？

第一本大城心事我觉得不错。至少让我们这班陈峰粉丝重温一下这几年和峰哥熬过的三更半夜。然而，大城心事2我却不怎么想购买。理由是，感觉上，听好像比读更能投入。这回，大城心事3来个大改革。峰哥把它编成了短篇小说版。基于好奇的推动下，终于去书局把这本书买下了。

结果是。。。小说版真的好多了。第一，阅读过程不再那么沉闷。上回阅读大城心事1时，总是感觉有点重复性。毕竟内容一切都听过了。这回，虽然也有似曾相识的感觉，但是比较容易投入。第二，小说版因为文字上的修饰，感觉上没大城心事1那么粗糙。第三，峰哥在每一则小说后都附上自己的“峰言峰语”。这一段结论堪称一绝。大城心事的精髓恰恰就是“峰言峰语”的一切。

原本想把一些书里的经典语录记录在此。但是，最后发觉到每一段“峰言峰语”都是经典的语录。因此，感觉上好像多此一举。10分满分，这本书我给予满分。峰哥这回太有创意了。这本书肯定会带来巨大的回响。峰哥，加油！

Think and Grow Rich: The 21st-Century Edition: Revised and Updated

I am going to do a short (a very short one) review on this book. The main reason is: this book no more motivates me like those days, haha... In fact, 20 years ago, I love this book so much. However, I did not reread this book after the first read. After all, there is a long list of reread books pending my precious time, haha.

This is the revised and updated version. So, I thought might as well give it a try. At the end, the so called revised and updated parts offered nothing except trying to praise every single content in the book. Examples given in the book are so "lame". Imagine people like Steve Jobs being quoted in the context. Irrelevant, right? I thought the published trying their best to re-brand the whole book. However, the assumptions given just make the whole book worse.

Relatively, I still preferred the original version. At the same time, I decided not to reread this book again in the future. This book shaped my life twenty years ago. However... as the practices in this book become my habit, it totally lost its attractiveness. This book serves as a motivational stuff for youngsters and those who are new into the entrepreneurship. But, for oldies like me, I do not find it inspiring anymore. As such, for a full rating of 10, I am going to rate this book at 1. 

Cool Down: Getting Further by Going Slower

After reading a lousy book, time to go for something relaxing... At the end, this book is too relaxing, LOL!

If I am 10-20 years younger, I think I will love this book. Now, at the age of 41, "cool down" stuff no more an issue to me. So, I do not need a book to help me to cool down. I am “cool” automatically, LOL.

Overall, this is a nice book. I strongly recommend youngsters to explore further on this idea especially if you are those who always complaint that 24 hours never enough. Frankly, if I am younger, I may not buy this idea of cool down. But, the older I get, the wiser I am. Now, I truly appreciate the wisdom of "getting further by going slower".

For a full rating of 10, I am going to rate this book at 3. Well, the author did well in presenting the "cool down" stuff. However, this theory no more appealing to me since I already started cooled down few years back. Having said that, I have no hesitation to recommend this book for those who are always hectic in their life. This book could serves as a good solution for busy peoples. 

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

I decided to revisit this book as one of my family members are having trouble to stop worrying. As such, here I am with one of the book that shaped my life in the past.

Ended up... this is still one of the best books I had ever read even though my last read was 20 years ago! Those days when I was young, I might not be able to appreciate so much even though I realize it was an amazing book. Now, in my early 40's I think this book will reshape my life once again!!!

The best part about this book is... it is helpful in all aspects of life from career, marriage, family, etc. Dale Carnegie guides us on how to control ourselves and acts in a way of service to others. The various examples given in the book will help readers to understand the concepts and apply it in their life. This book is essential beneficial to everyone, even for those without the problems of controlling emotional qualities.

I have so many good things to say about this book. As such, I have no hesitation to rate this book at 10/10! In fact, I made up my mind to revisit this book every several years. I think this book will benefit each individual personally and professionally. I highly recommend this book!

Last but not least... such a great book... of course tons of nice quotes as below:

Take thoughts for the tomorrow, yes, careful thought and planning and preparation. But, have no anxiety.

You and I are like hourglass. When we start in the morning, there are hundreds of tasks which we feel that we must accomplish that day, but if we do not take them one at a time and let them pass through the day slowly and evenly, as do the ground of sand passing through the narrow neck of the hourglass, then we are bound to break our own physical or mental structure.

Life is a ceaseless change. The only certainty is today. Why mar the beauty of living today by trying to solve the problems of a future that is shrouded in ceaseless change and uncertainty- a future that no one can possibly foretell?

You do not get stomach ulcers from what you eat. You get ulcers from what is eating you. Ulcers frequently flare up or subside according to the hills and valleys of emotional stress.

Plato said that "the greatest mistake physicians make is that they attempt to cure the body without attempting to cure the mind; yet the mind and body are one should be treated separately!"

Dr Alexis Carrel: "Business men who do not know how to fight worry die young."

If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osier did: Live in "day-tight" compartments." Don't stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime.

Half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision. Once a decision is carefully reached act! Get busy carrying out your decision - and dismiss all anxiety about the outcome.

It is difficult to worry while you are busy doing something that requires planning and thinking.

Why does such a simple thing as keeping busy help to drive out anxiety? Because of a law- one of the most fundamental laws ever revealed by psychology. And that law is: it is utterly impossible for any human mind, no matter how brilliant, to think of more than one thing at any given time.

General George Crook- probably the greatest Indian fighter in American history says that nearly all the worries and unhappiness of the Indian came from their imagination, not from reality.

Let's examine the record. Let's ask ourselves: "what are the chances, according to the law of average, that this event I am worrying about will ever occur?"

We are going to meet a lot of unpleasant situations that are so. They cannot be otherwise. We have our choice. We can either accept them as inevitable and adjust ourselves to them, or we ca ruin our lives with rebellion and maybe end up with a nervous breakdown.

President of Chrysler: "When I am up against tough situation, if I can do anything about it, I do it. If I can't, I just forget it. I never worry about the future, because I know no man living can possibly figure out what is going to happen in the future. So, why worry about them?"

One of the reasons was their burning desire to impress you and me. Yes, we are the posterity whose opinion they were worried about! Do we give a hoot? No, we are too concerned with our own problems to waste a minute thinking about them.

Whenever we are tempted to throw good money after bad in terms of human living, let's stop and ask these questions:
1. How much does this thing I am worrying about really matter to me?
2. At what point shall I set a stop loss order on this worry and forget it?
3. Exactly how much shall I pay for this whistle? Have I already paid more than it is worth?

There is only one way on God's green footstool that the past can be constructive' and that is by calmly analysing our past mistakes and profiting by them- and forgetting them.

We need to be concerned about our problems, but not worried. Concern means realising what the problems are and calmly taking steps to meet them. Worrying means going around in maddening, futile circles.

You will quickly discover what William James was talking about- that it is physically impossible to remain blue or depressed while you are acting out the symptoms of being radiantly happy!

Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.

When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us; power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health and our happiness. Our enemies will dance with joy if only they knew how they were worrying us, lacerating us and getting even with us! Our hate is not hurting them, but our hate is turning our own days and nights into a hellish turmoil.

If selfish people try to take advantage of you, cross them off your list, but don't try to get even. When you try to get even, you hurt yourself more than you hurt the other fellow.

Even if we can't love our enemies, let's at least love ourselves. Let's love ourselves so much that we won't permit our enemies to control our happiness, our health and our looks.

"To be wronged or robbed," said Confucius, "is nothing unless you continue to remember it."

No one can humiliate or disturb you- unless we let him. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.

Let's never waste a minute thinking about peoples we don't like.

Let's not expect gratitude. Then, if we get some occasionally, it will come as a delightful surprise. If we don't get it, we won't be disturbed.

The most important thing in life is not to capitalize on your gains. Any fool can do that. The really important thing is to profit from your losses. That requires intelligence, and it makes the difference between a man of sense and a fool.

You can be cured in 14 days if you follow this prescription. Try to think every day how you can please someone.

Why will doing a good deed everyday produce such astounding efforts on the doer? Because trying to please others will cause us to stop thinking of ourselves: the very thing that produces worry and fear and melancholia.

If you want to banish worry and cultivate peace and happiness, here is Rule 7: Forget yourself by becoming interested in others. Do every day a good deed that will put a smile of joy on someone's face.

Man is not made to understand life, but to live it.


If we are tempted to be worried about unjust criticism here is Rule 1: Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.

When you and I are unjustly criticized, let's remember Rule 2: Do the very best you can: and then put your old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism from running down the back of your neck. 

So, to prevent fatigue and worry, the first rule is: Rest often. Rest before you get tired.

Dr Edmund Jacobson of the University of Chicago has gone so far as to say that if you can completely relax the muscles of the eyes, you can forget all your troubles.

You can relax in odd moments, almost anywhere you are. Only don't make an effort to relax. Relaxation is the absence of all tension and effort. Think ease and relaxation.

"I measure my accomplishments," says Daniel W. Josselyn, "not by how tired I am at the end of the day, but how tired I am not." He says: "When I feel particularly tired at the end of the day, or when irritability proves that my nerves are tired, I know beyond questions that it has been an inefficient day both as to quantity and quality."

A person with his desk pilled high with papers on various matters will find his work much easier and more accurate if he clears that desk of all but the immediate problem on hand. I call this good housekeeping and it is the number-one step towards efficiency.

Keep reminding yourself that getting interested in your job will take your mind off your worries, and in the long run, will probably bring promotion and increased pay. Even if it doesn't do that, it will reduce fatigue to a minimum and help you enjoy your hours of leisure. 

Worrying about insomnia will hurt you far more than insomnia. 

No man ever committed suicide by refusing to sleep and no one ever will. Nature would force a man to sleep in spite of all his will power. Nature will let us go without food or water far longer than she will let us go without sleep.

More money is not the answer to most people's financial worries. In fact, I have often seen it happen that an increase in income accomplished nothing but an increase in spending- and an increase in headaches. What cause most people to worry is not that they haven't enough money, but that they don't know how to spend the money they have!

I try to see my troubles in their proper perspective. I say to myself: "Two months from now I shall not be worrying about this bad break, so why worry about it now? Why not assume now the same attitude that I will have two months from now?" 

The Mental Edge in Trading : Adapt Your Personality Traits and Control Your Emotions to Make Smarter Investments

Larry Williams... a well-known name in the world of trading. This book is written by his son, Jason Williams. Even the father, Larry Williams was shocked by the research done on this book. So, how can I miss it?

At the end... what a well-written book. This book focuses on the human personality and the natural born traits that take every trader to another level. The author tried to find out certain trait that helps to make a successful trader. At the same time, there are certain characters which serve as the major obstacles for traders around the world. In this book, we have insights and deep studies into each character that helps us to become a better trader.

In addition, the author included real life examples by providing tons of studies cases via the dialogue with some well-known traders. I love this part a lot. It tells us how each character trait plays its role. I personally benefited a lot from reading this book. At the end, I found where my strengths and weaknesses are and it helps to improve my mentality as a trader.

On the cons... Unfortunately, the author did not provide further info on how to work on with the traits that we already have. According to him, traits cannot be changed. Hence, we have no choice but to live with it. However, I personally saw the changing of my personality throughout my trading years. In the initial state, perhaps it is so hard to change. However, the cruel side of trading will changed our personalities along the way. I wish the author could elaborate more on this book. Unfortunately, what we have is merely a book with details studies on the subject without much solution.

Rating wise, I am going to rate this book at 6/10. As I mentioned above, this book could be better if the author are more proactive in providing solutions. Overall, it is still a good book to read on. At least, we understand ourselves more and we understand how great traders perform with their naturally born characters.

Some nice quotes from the book:

Every move you make while you trade is surely being watched by the harshest and most critical judge of all: yourself. In trading, generally you are the only one who is putting the immense pressure on yourself to succeed. As the saying goes, you turn into your own worst enemy.

The only way to overcome the anxiety associated with performance is to keep performing the act or behaviour over and over until, it is no longer anxiety-provoking.

The psychological term is "habituation." It means that the more you expose yourself to an anxiety (instead of trying to avoid it), the sooner your body will learn to deal with the anxiety, and the sooner the anxiety will dissipate. 

It can be very uncomfortable process to force yourself to remain in an anxiety-provoking situation when your mind is telling you to get out of it. But it is the only way to overcome this problem.

Many traders have difficulty admitting to their spouses or others if they are in bad trade They may either deny it or minimize it. Not just because of the financial setback, but because it may reflect poorly on them as a person.

The best traders have low anxiety levels; this is true. But you need to understand your own strengths and weaknesses and then adapt to them. 

Avoid trading systems that are very active in terms of frequency of trades, because you will need time to reset your emotions, and if your trading style is too active, this will not happen.

You feel you are a loser? Use the four S- Stop sign, Shout it out, Substitute, Sustain.

Amateur traders tend to use trading as a distraction from their day jobs, with the hope of changing their current life condition into something more desirable. 

"I have no expectation about the results of a trade." In fact, this was a consistent theme we heard over and over while interviewing top market traders. They also frequently make reference to "not doing it for money."

Making a living from the markets is the business objective, and ultimately, if I couldn't earn a living from the markets, I will certainly do something else. But the design process is what I am most passionate about in this work.

As long as I keep my trading style as boring as watching a vegetable garden grow, my anxiety and my anger and my impulsivity are kept under wraps. To me it means having my timing and selection work in a very systematic module.

舍得让你爱的人受苦

华语首席身心灵畅销作者张德芬时隔两年后的最新力作。。。怎能错过呢？这类书籍，我一向来不推崇。（不想中毒太深，呵呵）但是，三年前读过张老师的【活出全新的自己】和【遇见未知的自己】；影响其实挺深刻的。总觉得，这类书籍不需要常常阅读。但是，能够在充满酸甜苦辣的人生中，偶尔看一看，效果是不错的。

结果，比起上两本，这一本太好了。可能张老师的写作能力越来越强了。可能刚好这本书触动了许多我一直不敢去触碰的脆弱自我。也可能这本书来的刚刚好（最近有点迷失自己了，呵呵）。。。简单来说，这本书我读得很开心。读完过后，就像上了一班很棒的心灵课程。整个人瞬间轻松了许多。

以下的经典语录就足以证明张老师写的多用心：

担心爱人变心是最不划算的投资。有那时间，精力，不如花在自己身上-心灵成长。毕竟没人会喜欢受害者心态的弃妇。而健康，快乐，有智慧的人却到处受欢迎。

夫妻之间有冲突一定是双方都坚持自己的立场不肯改变，而且还想要对方先改，所以是无解的。

我们不能看爱人受苦，不是单纯因为爱他们，而是因为无法忍受自己内在的那种焦心，楸心的担忧和心疼。我们自己的脆弱，使得我们无法承受内在的情绪冲突。这时候，你可以带着内心对他们最大的爱意，接受自己内在情绪的起伏波动，在他们身边为他们加油打气（而不是亲自去帮他们扫除障碍，或是陪着他们一起愁烦），帮组他们靠自己的力量去度过难关。这样一来，你们两个人就一起成长了。

“期望”是说如果得不到，我就会失望，伤心，难过。而“希望”是说，我希望你能这样，但是如果你做不到，我也还是肯OK。如果我们只有希望，没有期望，日子会过得很好。

你为对方带来了什么？这些年来你有没有成长？还是拿婚姻的保障，感情的基础作为老本？

如果我们不能跟内在的不舒服相处的话，我们会不断的想去改变外在的人，事，物，那这样你就无法找回自己内在的力量，甚至还会失去自己内在的力量。真正的内在力量，就是你拥有力量去把各种“应该”“不应该”的要求全部收回来，然后跟内在不舒服的感受和平共处。

我们可以振振有词的批评别人，但是别忘了，他的特质，习惯，态度，做事方式，如果惹毛了你的话，很抱歉，你身上一定有和这些一样的特质在呼应着。

如果你要求事情在特定的时间以特定的方式呈现，而对最糟糕的结果有抗拒和恐惧的话，你就没有真正的放下。

小孩自小如果没有自治权，将来如果有机会获得自治权，叛逆起来可是不得了。只可惜他们是人到中年以后才开始叛逆，这个时候，他们的父母可能早就过世了，他们的叛逆对象可能就是他们的事业或是配偶。

一个没有学会说“不”的孩子从小就不断受到父母的“侵犯”，没有为自己划定界限的能力。所以，很自然的，长大以后，他们在外面的世界也不懂得为自己划定界限，不会说“不”，而不断的遭受别人“侵犯”。

很多时候，我们教育孩子其实不是为了他们，而是为了我们自己。我的孩子如果没有教养，我回丢人。如果我的孩子学习很差，我也会没面子。这是为了满足自己的某种期望和需求。但孩子的学习成绩难道比他的快乐还重要吗？

我们去骂，责怪别人，要比自己承担情绪的责任容易的多。可是，如果你真心想要成长，就必须对自己狠一点。用一段时间来练习把情绪的责任都揽在自己身上。

想要拾回童心，我们就要先找回自己内在的小孩，修复他的创伤，学会自己疼爱他，而不是等待那个永远不会出现的完美父母来圆满他的人生（很多时候，我们都误以为亲密伴侣就是我们等待了一生的完美父母，可惜，最后希望还是落空）。

你一定要拿出最大的包容和耐心，接纳自己一切的不完美。

真正的快乐来自于自发性的，没有预设结果的行动。

面对痛苦，经历痛苦才是最好的修行，没有一劳永逸的离苦方法。只有透过受苦，我们打受苦“预防针”，加强自己受苦的能力，下次痛苦再来的时候，我们才有能力承受，并愿意和它共处，不再逃避。

当炮弹朝你飞来的时候，如果你转身就跑，你会被炸到；如果飞速的朝着炮弹的来处奔去，你会发现炮弹从你的头顶掠过，远远的落在了后方。


10分满分，我会毫不犹豫给足满分。如以上我所说，这类书籍偶然看一下，效果肯定非常好。这一轮，恰巧心灵上挺需要这本书的。因此，对的时间，阅读对的书籍，效果肯定是最好的。最后，个人非常推荐这本书。它不是一般的心灵建设书籍。它打开的不只是我们的周边世界，更打开了那个永远看不到的自己。赞，赞，赞！

我相信‧失敗

陈文茜，一个每个礼拜都让我和她准时有约的高智商分子（文茜的世界周报）。而且，书中名单上的大咖士还真的让人难以抗拒。随手拈来，就有周杰伦，蔡康永，阿信，刘若英，罗大佑，潘石屹等等。再来，“失败”这主题太吸引我了。成功学我兴趣不大（鸦片学也），失败学我倒是非常感兴趣的。重点是，作者还要我们相信失败！因此，这本书怎能错过呢？

如果说看陈文茜的“文茜世界周报”是种享受，阅读这本书理论上应该有过之而无不及的感觉吧。结果。。。感觉糟透了！第一，基于陈文茜本人的知识太广；很多时候，主持人好像有种喧宾夺主的感觉。来宾的光芒很容易被陈文茜的滔滔不绝给掩盖掉了。其实，看陈文茜的节目也是如此。往往，她个人主持的节目（在没有来宾的状态下）是非常棒的。一有第三者，陈文茜很容易忘了把空间留给嘉宾们。

第二，“失败”的主题真的很不搭。嘉宾“失败”的例子不多（基本上，简直是少之又少）。有的是很多“文学”上的讨论。难怪，书本上注明上架建议是“文学”，而不是我想象中的“励志”。

这类书籍很难让我留下深刻影响。或许，在电视机旁观赏，感觉会好一点。但，综合以上两点，我不得不承认：期望越高，真的是失望越高！10分满分，个人给予3分。这仅有的3分主要还是以下仅有的经典语录。结论是，这本书真的不是我想象中的那样。。。太失望了！

蔡康永：

我觉得人生起伏应该把它当成必然的节奏。悲伤跟开心，我都觉得是很多余的情绪。

“随遇”是一定的。人生就是随着我们的机遇往前走。“而安” 的安，应该把它当成是一个主动的动词。你碰到什么机遇，就要把它搞定。不要倒过来想因为无可奈何，我只好接受命运的安排。

如果你需要一个专业，应该了解在你的专业范围内，会有很多别的世界的人跑进来，他们最后都会是厉害的人，因为他们带了这个领域里大家都不懂的事。如果你有志于某个领域，千万不要只满足于这个领域的专业知识。

蒋勋：

即使到现在，我睡过好多了不起的卧房跟床，还是最怀念夏天那颗榕树的床。什么都有了以后，要回到没有的状况是很难的。

潘石屹：

如果没有创造力，你不就和机器人一样了吗？而且你做事情效率还没有机器人高。

The Choose Yourself Guide To Wealth

I hardly touch this sort of books. But, a friend of mine recommended this as he said it was better than "The Narrow Road" and "How to get Rich"... wow... must read then...

Ironically, this book is so much better compares to "Trade Like a Hedge Fund". If I rated "Trade Like a Hedge Fund" at zero, this book deserved 8/10. In another words, the author is actually good at writing books. (A speculate author with random results? Hmm...) However, his idea on hedge fund stuff simply reflects his own weaknesses. After all, he admitted that he somehow failed in his hedge fund stuff, be it the operations of hedge fund or his book on hedge fund...

Ok, back to this book... This book inspired me in many ways. The quotes listed below are very much aligning with my thinking:

Engage with nobody who is bad to you. When you get in the mud with a pig, the pigs get happy and you get dirty.

Complaining is draining. When you are anxious, nervous or scared, try to stop yourself and do two things:
1. Repeat to yourself, "I notice I am felling anxious." This distances you from the feeling.
2. Think of at least one new thing you are grateful for.

Increase in salary only offers marginal to zero increase in "happiness" above a certain level. This is because of a basic fact: people spent what they make. So, back you go to the corporate casino for one more try at the salary roulette wheel. I have never once seen anyone save the increase they received in their salary.

When your idea muscle is developed along with the other legs of the Daily Practice - physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual - you'll have a better idea when you should shut things down. 

Everybody is a poor predictor of outcomes - from the weatherman, to the stock analyst. But, we can all be good at preparation.

Nobody is going to buy from someone they hate. The buyer has to like you and want to be your friend. People pay for friendship.

The best way to make friends and customers for life is to direct them to a better service or product than yours. Be the source of valuable information rather than the source of your "product of the day".

A bad customer spreads like a disease inside you, your employees, your other customers, your competitors, your future customers, your family, etc.

It seems natural to say "yup" or "right" or "uh-huh" or whatever. But, here are the facts based on studies: people perceive you as stupid when you do this. Just keep quiet when someone is talking.

Everyone around you needs to ultimately become better than you. That's how you lead. The light is in front of you and you take them to the light and then go back.

We do things to hide the pain. Soon, everything in our lives we might think give us pleasure (because we are now avoiding all the pain) is actually just a buffer against pain and change. When you get rid of the buffers against pain and change, life becomes more insecure, but you become free.

Buddha himself realized this about public speaking. He said, "Don't believe me on anything. Try this out for yourself." Hence, always be vulnerable in public speaking. Nobody wants to hear from Invulnerable Man or Ms. Perfect. They want to hear where you are scared and vulnerable and feeling insecure, because we all are. 

If you can't walk away from a negotiation, then you aren't negotiating. You are just working out the terms of your slavery.

A way to replenish energy is to live a gentle live. As gently as possible, so your energy grows and is used where it is needed. 

Connecting people who can benefit each other is the most useful skill you can have on the entrepreneurial ladder of skills. 

You can't get good at something if you are working twenty hours a day. If you just do one thing, the benefits quickly decline and you also ignore the pleasure of becoming well-rounded.

I've asked many others what were they thinking at the rock bottom and the answer almost always was something like "what else could I do with my life? I had to keep going!"

Find your niche, then find a small or a nonexistent market where you can enter and dominate 80% of the market, as if you were a monopoly.

Find a business that satisfies the three D's: Death, Divorce, Debt.

Most people don't realize that owning a home has all the attributes of the worst investment possible: it's highly illiquid, there's a high leverage, it includes most of your net worth, and it provides you with an average of only 0.2 % over the past year. And this doesn't count all your maintenance cost. I rather rent, and invest the extra money in myself and my own ideas. 

So many legitimate funds that might have been better places for investor money... couldn't survive because the illegitimate funds crowded them out of the space. 

A path to unhappiness is thinking the future can be predicted and controlled.

Perhaps, the only chapter that really turned me off was "How to get an MBA from Eminem". This chapter again shows that the author is a good writer where his creativity excels in a way. However, I read this chapter as sort of bullshitting (LOL). By listening to a song, you can get a MBA? Come on... Apart from that, this book is a nice book to explore. I spent quite a lot of time reading this book. My conclusion is... well worth the time and money spent!!!

Trading Beyond the Matrix: The Red Pill for Traders and Investors

After reading three "boring" books, time is just right to get back to my favorite stuff. So, here I am with this book after digesting an impressive interview between the author and Michael Covel.

The preface at the beginning of this book really spur my interest on this book. The author was inspired by the movie of "The Matrix". As a result, we got this so called "red pills" for traders and investors instead of "blue pills" as seen in the said movie. I love the said movie so much, although I admit that I am still very confused over the amazing contents. But, those days, the "red pills" did inspired me...

Ended up, this book caught me in different mix feeling throughout the journey of digesting it. First of all... the famous SQN as mentioned umpteen times in the book puzzled me more rather than strengthen my belief that a simple statistic like SQN actually works in real life. In my humble opinion, SQN alone is too predictive. A statistical stuff alone are just a guide and there is no way to prove a system workable unless it can performs regardless of the products, regional and any circumstances. The contradict part of it are the author's belief that we need to adjust different set of mechanical trading system for different markets or products. So, the predictive element is actually strengthen in a way that we need to "predict" the robustness of a system and we need to "predict" whether such system workable in a particular market. To me, I rather believe that products will change every single moments. Hence, the more a system adapts to different circumstances (regardless of products and regional issue), the more robustness it should be. If that is the case, is there a need to prepare different systems for different products?

Secondly, the author mentioned that: "The biggest mistake people make is to try to design one system to fit all markets." Well, I am not too sure about this. I would prefer to filter out the products while maintaining "one" system for the remaining products that I choose. As mentioned above, the more a system able to react to any circumstances, the more robustness it can be. Of course, we may not be able to apply "one" system to all products in general as the results may vary significantly. However, we have the choice to choose which products (with high profitable returns) to trade and which products to trade off. Again, it is all about "prediction" if we try to choose particular system for particular products. The contradict part arise when the author himself admit that: "If prediction has nothing to do with trading well, what do we try to achieve when we open a positions? It seems to be prediction." Sounds contradict, right?

Apart from the above two points, I actually like this book so much. The chapter on "My Inner Guidance" was surprisingly good even though I never believe in god. The author's relationship with Mitzi especially caught my mind as now I believe we really becomes who we are thanks to our grown up process. This brings up to a very excellent opinion from author at the earlier part of the book: "Every part is established with a positive intention, quite often to protect you from something, but you tend to forget about each part once it is established, as well as its intention. Consequently, a fear part designed to protect you from fear actually ends up bringing up fear all the time and producing fear in your life. One of the things you need to do to resolve the conflict is to go back to the part's original intention and give it positive things to do." As far as I am concern, god does not exist, But, the belief of positive thinking and raising our consciousness are so important to human beings like you and me.

Overall, this is an excellent book for traders. In general, all psychology stuff presented will surely help traders overcome lots of hurdles and tough moments in the cruel world of trading. The best part... the author provided cases of studies with successful traders sharing their journey with the readers throughout the whole book. Moreover, a UK friend of mine mentioned that the only way to get Van Tharp's psychology stuff is to attend his expensive courses. Now, it is all here in this tiny book (To me, any book less than 300 pages are consider not thick).

As a conclusion, I highly recommend this book even though there are certain points that does not sounds appealing to me as mentioned above. For a full rating of 10, I am going to rate this book at 8. This book further enhance my belief towards a better trader as well as a better and happy person.

Lastly, listed below are three excellent quotes that I think will be useful for my future references:

Entry by itself is relatively unimportant. Entry with your initial stop-loss is very important in setting up what 1R means.

Anything is possible. But, trying to be right is a sure path to disaster because of the psychological issues involved, and trying to predict is a path to disaster because, in my opinion, no one can really do it.

How do you think you'd perform as a trader if you were feeling "guilt", "shame", "fear", "grief", "anger" or any of the other lower emotions? It should be clear that you wouldn't do that well. You need to be at a minimum level of "acceptance" to expect to have much chance of successfully trading the markets. 

把嘲笑当激励

最近不太想动脑筋。。。因此，还是选择了一本轻松小品。戴晨志的书我读过不少。这一本倒是漏掉了。好吧，再来轻松一下吧！

结果，轻松是轻松；但是，还是一无所获。糟糕，激励中毒太深了。我尽然连读三本激励书籍，却一点感觉也没有。看来，我真的需要更深的毒品（激励书籍）。前辈当年说的真对。激励书籍真的不能读太多。有一天，你真的会中毒太深，而找不到更高级的毒品！！！

基于个人原因，我没办法给这本书太高的评价。10分满分，勉强给个1分。阅读的乐趣是有，但启发性太少了。老实说，这篇书评写的很辛苦。写了五年部落格，还是第一次出现这种状况。是时候换一换书籍了。激励书籍，请暂时离我远一点。我需要戒毒了，呵呵！

佐賀阿嬤給我的人生禮物

上回【佐贺阿嬷笑着活下去】让我挺失望的。但是，还是有点不甘心。佐贺阿嬷的故事难道真的不再让我共鸣吗？于是，我又找了多一本佐贺阿嬷书籍。希望这回能找回一点共鸣度。

结果。。。感觉是好了一点。但是，共鸣还是有限。看来，这类书籍不再是我的那杯茶。或许，换另一个角度来说，这一切不是坏事。至少，证明我成长了。我比较懂得面对无常的人生。因此，这类书籍可以抛到云霄之外了。

共鸣虽然不高，但这一本很明显好过上一本。第一，内容比较丰富。第二，幽默层度也提高了一些些。结果，虽然不太启发我，但我读的蛮有趣的。

10分满分，这本书对于“成长了”的我还是值得4分的。虽然不会再碰佐贺阿嬷的书籍，至少这一系列书籍在我人生中肯定起过作用。。。

佐賀阿嬤 笑著活下去！

上两本书籍折腾了我的情绪，烧坏了我许多的脑细胞。。。是时候读一读小品式的作品。多年前就读过【佐贺的超级阿嬷】，但我不知道这系列书籍还有延续。好吧，这个时候就轻松一下吧！

当年阅读【佐贺的超级阿嬷】挺感动，挺共鸣的。这回，除了轻松阅读；老实说，没什么启发。是这类故事已经不再激励我了（毒瘾太深了，需要更强的激励书籍），还是人生太多的酸甜苦辣导致一切都麻木了？或许，两个都是。。。结果，我很轻松的把这本书读完。但，印象真的不深刻。

还好。最后的终章关于橡皮筋飞机和纸飞机的一幕至少触动了我许多儿时的回忆。我小时候也是活在“纸飞机”的时代。但，我的童年基本上还是快乐的。诚如作者的总结般，阿嬷的诚恳态度从来不让贫穷成为作者童年的破坏者。这一点，父母和我家里的兄弟姐妹也做到了。

10分满分，没办法给予这本书太高的评价。轻松小品式，但也太轻松了吧！好吧，反正褒贬不一，就给予3分吧！